For those women who want their boyfriend to ‘talk dirty to me’ to spice things up a little, or wish he would be more adventurous in bed, don’t expect him to read your mind and know what you want him to do.

You want your boyfriend to talk dirty to you, but what if your boyfriend is not comfortable about this and thinks it is silly and cheesy? Some guys just find it hard to talk dirty to the woman he loves.

I have a girlfriend that is in a wonderful relationship with a great guy. They are so in love and attracted to each other and it seems to be perfect. She would sometimes send naughty little text messages to him hoping that he would reciprocate, but he never seems to respond well.

You are in love with your boyfriend but feel that you are getting frustrated and tied up in this area. Simply tell your boyfriend what you want him to say to you that will make you feel good and he should understand. Many guys are bad at picking up hints so you have to express your feelings directly.

If your boyfriend has different views on this issue, then I will suggest taking it slow and not show your displeasure. Pressing him to do something when he is not in the mood or making him feel uneasy is only going to make him stressed. When he feels that he is in control or at his comfort level, then he’ll probably start talking dirty to you in bed.

Remember that you can’t change him overnight. Firstly, ask yourself this, do you sound sexy, fun and gentle? Have you tried to arousing him? Maybe he just lacks the courage or imagination to do it.

Get your guy to open up with the ‘Talk Dirty Manual’. Download and send him a copy to let him know what you’re up to. The next time he’ll probably have some ideas that he wants to say to you. So give him space and time to get comfortable first and don’t be pushy.