Even though there are several different methods out there to win love back, it’s still important to start with basics. Two things that are vital to successfully repairing a broken relationship are confidence and a game plan. All relationships have their own sets of ups and downs, and each one has different challenges.

As a result, a slightly different set of solutions will be needed to make things right again, but that doesn’t mean you have to try to do it alone. Sure, some of the advice you get may not apply directly to your situation, but the trick is to use whatever you can in a way that works best for you. There are no one size fits all solutions, and having a good grasp of the basics will help you get back together with your ex.

Your friends and family may have excellent advice based on their past experiences. That’s the problem. It’s always based on their past experiences, not yours. Every relationship has slightly different dynamics, and no two people are alike. So, be gracious, and remember that they are only trying to help. Use whatever advice applies to your situation, and don’t worry about the rest. With that in mind, here are some of the basics you can use to rebuild your relationship. 

Your first reaction to a break up may be to talk to your ex into getting back together with you. Wait! Not so fast! First, you both need some time to relax and come to terms with what has really happened. If you act too quickly, and your ex isn’t ready, then you will be doing more harm than good. Second, you don’t want to come across as being desperate. By calling constantly, even with the best of intentions, you will appear needy and desperate. Doing these things won’t make your ex interested in getting back with you, and may only serve to push them farther away.

Another one of the basics is honesty. You have to be honest with yourself and your ex if you want to have a serious chance to win love back. Not only is it the right thing to do, but it’s smart, too. You should assume you will be getting back together, and therefore it’s only logical that you wouldn’t want to build your new and improved relationship on lies. 

The next part of the game plan is to review what went wrong. Be sure to get below the surface. You need to get to the root of the problem. Once you have a good idea of what really went wrong, you will be able to make it better. You will also be in a better position to avoid making the same mistakes again.

As the old song says, you need to “accentuate the positive”. Now, that doesn’t mean you should live in an imaginary world where nothing bad ever happens; that would be foolish. However, you should try to see the best qualities in your ex and give them the benefit of the doubt. By focusing on the things you love about them, you will be nurturing that love and help it to grow. What better way can there be to win love back?

Sometimes a relationship can be over before it’s over.  The two of you may still be together but the warmth, love and companionship is gone. At times like this a woman may ask the question: how can I get my boyfriend to love me again?  Answering this question will be easier if the two of you are still together, but not impossible if you aren’t.  You have to figure out what caused the relationship to cool and then try to reverse whatever that was. 

If the two of you recently broke up the thing that you feel most like doing is the one thing you absolutely should never do: call him (text him, IM him, etc. ) This is especially important if he broke up with you. If you start acting like some sort of crazy stalker lady, at worst you’re going to end up with a restraining order against you and at best he’ll only think of you as his ‘sure thing, back up plan’.  Neither of those are terrific options. Give him space.

That doesn’t mean that you have to go out and find another guy or hide under your bed.  While you are giving your ex time, take some time for you.  I’m sure that there are things that you wanted to do or liked to do that got put on the back burner while the two of you were together. Now is the time to remember those things and start doing them again.

Most men prefer a woman who is self sufficient and confidant.  Those are probably traits you had at first, it’s time to re introduce yourself to those traits and start having fun and doing all the things you meant to do or used to do. Your ex will hear about it through the grapevine and he will be intrigued.  You might just find that he is calling you, by resorting to the woman you used to be you are reminding him of the woman he fell in love with.  Plus, by keeping yourself busy you aren’t allowing yourself time to wallow and obsess.

The same principle can hold true if you and your guy are still together, but just not feeling the love.  Don’t make a big issue out of it, just start doing some of the things that you were planning on doing but somehow got sidetracked when you and your guy got together.  Whatever it was, whether it was going back to school, learning to cook, taking a trip, etc.  This will remind both of you of the woman you used to be. That can help him remember the love he had for you and it can remind you of the person you used to be and make positive changes to be that woman again.

The question: how can I get my boyfriend to love me again, can seem so sad and hopeless. But it doesn’t have to be.  There are many things that you can do, many of which are much easier than you may have thought possible, that can help you and your boyfriend rekindle the love the two of you had before.